The Stops and Starts of Fun

Putting Fun Back In Your Life

Happy New Year!

2011 - Make it the best year yet

Life - love - bliss - health - wealth - inspiration

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Long time no speak - sorry for my absence, not had a good couple of months however I am back with a vengeance now. I have spent time out and also with the help of the wonderful coach Beverley Grant ( gartside) to you and I - she was there as always when I needed someone to talk to.

Isnt it great having friends that are such good coaches. Made me realise just how much I have missed coaching - spent a lot of time this year on my Alter Ego business. But new projects are looming that will get me back doing what I love most.

Hope you are all well - be great to hear from you

Debs

I Promise

I promise myself...

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthsiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.
To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

-- Christian D. Larson

Lost

Lost
Stand still.
The trees ahead and the bushes beside you Are not lost.
Wherever you are is called Here,
And you must treat it as a powerful stranger,
Must ask permission to know it and be known.
The forest breathes. Listen. It answers,
I have made this place around you,
If you leave it you may come back again, saying Here.

No two trees are the same to Raven.
No two branches are the same to Wren.
If what a tree or a bush does is lost on you,
You are surely lost. Stand still.
The forest knows Where you are.
You must let it find you.

imagine

Individual motivation and group experience - isnt this just what we are all about as coaches.
long time no speak - hope you are all really well. off to a meeting today with a senior partner in law firm to talk about a concept called "divorce, deceased & demented" My aim is to run small talks to help the many people out there that are facing the traumas of divorce, help them realise that life will never be the same again - but much better in the future. I am deceased of the person that I used to be !! without divorce I wouldnt be the person that I am today. At times I have felt demented myself or that those around me have been !! I have some hilarious stories to tell of life during , before and after divorce - some my own - many from clients. One day the book will get written - this is my first step to getting closer to this goal. I have dug out the work that I started 4 years ago and surprised myself !!

Hope you are all having a wonderful time in coachland !!

speak much sooner

debs

Lifebook 2010

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants, and eat less food that is manufactured in plants
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy
5. Make time for prayer
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day ---- and while you walk, smile

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do ; keep your limits
14. Don't take yourself so seriously ; no one else does
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:
25. Call your family often
26. Each day give something good to others
27. Forgive everyone for everything
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day
30. What other people think of you is none of your business
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right things
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
34. GOD heals everything
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
37. The best is yet to come
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Coaches' Prayer

To That Which is Greater Than We Are:

Make me the vessel of Truth, Love and Wisdom.

In this moment, I choose to be the highest possible expression of love and I ask for Support in living from this space.

If there is any heaviness, constriction or fear within me, I release that in this moment, choosing instead to savor this Dance of connection with another soul, regardless of the form and the outcome of this connection.

I surrender any ego or attachment, including the need to know or understand, and choose to be fully present to the magic of each unfolding moment.

I open my heart to all that is possible and ask again that You make me the vessel through which another heart is touched, and perhaps expanded.

The Rules for being Human

When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these guidelines make life work better.

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher.

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process as "success."

4. A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next lesson.

5. If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention.

6. You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing.

7. "There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better than "here."

8. Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself.

9. Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life -- or someone else will.

10. You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students.

11. There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best.

12. Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust.

13. You will forget all this.

14. You can remember any time you wish.

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The Wisdom of Wellness

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Congratulations to Noshaba on her marriage

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http://blogs.harvardbusiness.org/ideacast/2008/01/harvard-business-ideacast-77-a.html

http://blogs.harvardbusiness.org/hbr/hbreditors/2008/12/what_coaches_can_do_for_you.html

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A Journey to Realize your Infinite Potential

People Paradigm Shift

“The Temperature of Speech.”

If something is urgent, say it slowly.

Our mind is like a lake full of muddy water. Our emotions

blow across the disturbed water so that it’s impossible either

to see through it to the bottom of the lake or, because the

waves are disturbed, to see an accurate reflection off the

surface.

What meditation does is reduce the turbulence until there is

no more disturbance on the surface. At that point, the

reflection on the water becomes clearer. However, this is only

If something is important, say it clearly.

If something is unimportant, say it humorously.

If something is uncertain, say it discreetly.

If something did not happen, do not mention it at all.

If you cannot do something, do not claim it for yourself.

If what you say could harm others, keep silent.

part of the process, because although the reflection off the

water is now undisturbed, the water is still muddy, and thus,

for instance, the sun looks a dull brown colour rather than the

bright yellow light that it is. We need to do more.

As the water is stilled, however, something else happens. The

mud begins to settle and sink to the bottom, leaving the

water clear and clean. Now that the water is clear as well as

still, we are not only able to see a true reflection, but we get

When something annoys you, don’t take it personally.

If something makes you happy, don’t make too much of it.

When talking about your own affairs, pay attention to how

you talk.

When talking about someone else’s affairs, be judicious.

When your heart is broken, not everyone needs to know.

the proper colours. The water’s transparency also allows us to

see into the depths and ascertain a truer sense of the

dimensions of the lake.

When the lake is so clear that there’s not the tiniest amount

of distortion, it reflects spontaneously and accurately our

surroundings. During meditation, the calm mind reflects the

environment as it is.

Of things that remain to be done, talk of them when they

are finished.

Of things that happen in the future, don’t talk of them in the

present.

If I have not satisfied you, tell me.

(Ancient Chinese verse)

"Enjoy"

Enjoy today
Yesterday is now the past,
Tomorrow, maybe, the future
Today is a gift!
That's why it's called the present

Enjoy today
For too soon
Today's become yesterdays
Tomorrows become today's
And if another day, that's tomorrow.

Enjoy today
Then yesterday is not gone
But part of today's memory
And can only help today
To look forward to tomorrow as today.

Enjoy today
And when it comes for you there's no tomorrow
As it must to all in the end
People will think back and say
You enjoyed your life, every day

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